I've seen the "Real Housewives" shows. At first I was slightly amused by them. It was like a car accident. You know you shouldn't gawk, but you can't seem to look away. I don't watch them anymore. They went "over the top" and "smarmy" for me. I started to feel dirty watching them. (But if you still watch them, I'm not judging. Enjoy!)
So I'm not THAT kind of housewife. I'm your typical housewife.
Is there such a thing as a "typical" housewife?
I wear yoga pants and capris, not designer clothes.
I work out sporadically, not every day. And I don't have a trainer.
I menu plan.
I try to clean the house but sometimes fall short.
I'm drowning in laundry.
I cook, pay bills, and try to keep up with all of the home maintenance.
I'm sometimes cranky and irritable.
I'm certainly sleep deprived.
I'm stressed out sometimes.
I pray, daily.
I'm happy most of the time.
I enjoy spending time with my children and watching them grow.
I actually like cleaning (maybe it's more of the end product I like).
I interact with other moms in real life and on line.
I do the best I can.
I'm not perfect.
Maybe you have a trainer. Maybe you love designer clothes. Maybe you hate cooking and cleaning but rock at gardening. Maybe you work outside the home.
You are a Real Housewife too. Or maybe you consider yourself a Home Engineer. That's OK too.
I read so much about the mommy wars and who is the best "Housewife". It seems like perfection is the new nirvana for the moms and housewives of today and we're all killing ourselves trying to get there. Even on those shows, the Housewives are constantly trying to out do each other and tear each other down. It's sad, really.
I'm not perfect. But if I manage to get make-up on today (which at the age of 43 really isn't "optional" for me) please know that I'm not trying to make you feel inferior because you completely forgot about make up all together. And that fantastic fund raiser/charity/sporting event
that you put together, won't make me head to Pinterest so I can out do you next year.
Since our end goals are really the same, I hope that I can support you, even if our parenting styles are radically different.
It actually takes more energy to see the negativity than the positive. So from now on, I will try to see more of your positives. And I will stop comparing myself to the "perfect" people out there.
Because I'm just doing the best I can. And I bet you are too.
A Poem To End The Mommy Wars By Kim Simon (via Huff Post Parents)